When You’ve Tried Everything to Feel Better… and Still Don’t Feel in Control

Why so many women in midlife are struggling - and how DBT can help.

There’s a woman I meet all the time in my work.

She’s in her late 30s to mid-50s.

She’s smart. Capable. Compassionate.

People come to her for help, advice, and emotional support.

But behind closed doors, she’s thinking, 'What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I cope?'

She feels overwhelmed by things that area small.

She’s snapping at her partner, her kids, or her colleagues - then feeling guilty.

She lies awake at night replaying conversations and worrying about things that feel impossible to solve.

And the part nobody sees?

She’s exhausted from trying so hard.

The Hidden Emotional Load

Women in this stage of life are often carrying more than anyone realises:

• Rising work demands

• Caring for teenagers, ageing parents, or both

• Relationship stress

• Hormonal changes associated with perimenopause

• And for many… a late diagnosis of ADHD that suddenly explains a lifetime of 'feeling too much'

Yet even with all of this, they often tell themselves they should be able to 'push through' or 'just relax.'

And when they can’t, they feel like they’re failing.

'I’ve Tried Everything… Why Isn’t Anything Working?'

By the time many women reach out to me, they’ve often already tried:

• Traditional talk therapy

• Meditation apps

• Supplements

• Podcasts and self-help books

• Changing jobs

• Changing routines

• Medication

• And every 'quick fix' the internet has to offer

But nothing sticks.

Nothing creates long-term, practical change in the way they feel day-to-day.

That’s usually the moment they reach a turning point - not because they’re weak, but because they’re finally ready for something that goes deeper and actually works.

Why DBT Is Different - and Why It Works

Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) is not another 'feel good' program or mindset hack.

It’s a structured, evidence-based psychological treatment that teaches lifelong skills in:

• Emotion regulation

• Distress tolerance

• Mindfulness

• Healthy communication

• Nervous system calming

• Breaking reactive emotional cycles

• Building confidence and emotional strength

DBT gives women the tools they need to make life feel stable, manageable, and meaningful again.

It helps them stop feeling at the mercy of their emotions and start moving back into the driver’s seat of their lives.

Introducing Australia’s First Online DBT Program for Women in Midlife

Launching February 2025

After years of working with women who feel overwhelmed, stuck, burnt out, misunderstood, and exhausted by trying so hard, I'm bringing gold-standard treatment to the comfort of home.

My new online DBT program is designed for anyone 18yrs+ who is:

• Feeling constantly overwhelmed or emotionally reactive

• Struggling with focus, motivation, or emotional 'swings'

• Newly diagnosed with ADHD (or suspect they may have it)

• Struggling with relationships & pervasive feelings of guilt

• Navigating the emotional rollercoaster of perimenopause

• Carrying years of stress, trauma, or people-pleasing habits

• Tired of short-term fixes and ready for real, lasting change

It’s practical.

It’s supportive.

It’s designed for busy individuals.

And it’s the first program of its kind in Australia.

The program is 12-months of intensive support, including:

• Weekly psychological skills training groups (90mins in evening time on zoom)

• Individual therapy sessions (start weekly & reduce over duration of program on zoom)

• Access to 24/7 phone coaching support between sessions

• 3x 90min family or partner sessions (if desired)

If you’ve been struggling quietly… you’re not alone.

So many people tell me:

'I don’t want to feel like this anymore… but I don’t know what else to try.'

There is something else.

There are skills that work.

And you deserve to feel calm, capable, and in control again.

Ready to explore whether this program is right for you?

Book a free 15-minute inquiry call with me: https://calendly.com/alexwilson-mindfulrecovery/dbt-info-call

We’ll talk about what you’re struggling with, what you’ve already tried, and whether DBT could be the missing piece you’ve been looking for.

If you’ve been waiting for the right moment to take control of your emotional wellbeing - this might be it.

Alex:)